It’s ok to cry

I had another session with Gloria tonight (my counselor) and the conversation ranged from parental parenting, as in dealing with my Dad, to latent feelings of grief and loss.  We even threw a little bit of emotional support regarding crying and “triggers” when it comes to loss, and the strong emotions that can come forward unexpectedly as a result of those triggers.  I’d  have to say it was probably one of the more enlightening sessions I’ve had in a while.

We’ve had a number of good sessions in my opinion and that comes to a bit of a surprise to me, and to admit that remembering how I felt when I went into the process some many months ago.  She will offer some insights which seem simple, basic, or fundamental at first glance but upon further analysis have many benefits and potential insights.  Who’d’ve thunk??  I hope that at some point, sooner rather than later, that I can articulate to her the gifts she’s given me.

We also talked of writing, specifically the chronicling of my adventures with Dad.  I told her “I’ve had lots of support for this, there are quite a few people encouraging me”.  Gloria said I should do it too!  “We are in the age of the baby boomers, it’s a timely topic”.  I know it is, but I confided to her that I inevitably shut myself off, I don’t allow myself to complete a project like this, I really think I must be afraid of success.  Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t come up with this stuff myself.  Reading up on Giftedness among other things like procrastination has taught me this.  It’s ok she said, give yourself permission to jam out, to not complete, in that way you can complete as much as you want and come back to finish if and when you like.  Hmmm, please Lord give me strength.


  1. Ermilia

    It’s amazing how simple comments can provide meaningful insights. I think that’s what’s so useful about seeing counsellors (and those related to that profession). They can often pinpoint seemingly “basic” points that everyone else overlooks because they are outsiders. Most of our problems can be traced back to a “simple” fundamental point. If we lose track of that, how can we ever find the right path again? A great, inspiring post!

    – Ermisenda

  2. Ermilia

    My mom (who is a counselor) and I were just talking about this after dinner. My grandmother, her mom, recently passed and we were discussing how American society has moved away from mourning. Many people only get 3 days to plan a funeral and any who have tried knows it takes longer than that. We no longer mourn, have people gather to tell stories, wear black, pile flowers outside the house so that neighbors can come comfort the family. This leads people to find comfort in less healthy activities. Especially since crying isn’t always “acceptable.”

    Thank you for sharing this.
    -Eliabeth (Ermisenda’s coauthor)

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